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| No Answer | Either you choose not to answer for whatever reason, or it's not applicable - such as breast bondage for males. To represent this, just put a cross through the box. |
| Curious | You've not tried it and so have no idea how you'd feel, but you are curious. |
| Essential | This is something that's so essential to you that you can't see yourself enjoying a relationship without it. |
| Love | You love doing whatever it is. |
| Like | You like doing whatever it is. |
| Don't Mind | You don't mind either way, but will do it for someone else. |
| Dislike | You dislike doing it but will do so if it means a lot to someone else. |
| Hate | You hate doing it but will do so if it means a lot to someone else. |
| Soft Limit | While it is not something you are capable of at the moment, you can see how that might one day change. |
| Hard Limit | There is no way you can ever see this being something you could do without damaging who you are. |
How you feel about having the act done to you or with you as the primary participant, perhaps at someone else's command. Alternatively, read this as how you feel about being on the receiving end of the act.
For example, Done To Self for "Fisting - Anal" means that it is your anus that the fist enters. For Cunnilingus, it would be you being licked (recieving).
How you feel about your play partner having the act done to them, perhaps at your command. Alternatively, read this as how you feel about doing this act to someone else.
To take the same example, Done To Others for "Fisting - Anal" means that it is your play partner's anus that the fist enters, be it your fist or someone else's. For Cunnilingus, it would be you doing the licking (giving).
Have you tried the activity (either done to yourself or done it to someone else)?
How do you feel about the activity (either doing it to yourself or to others)?
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| Activity | To Self (Receiving) |
To Others (Giving) |
||
| Done | Rate | Done | Rate | |
|
Anal Play
Acts in which the anus is involved. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Beating (General)
Acts in which one partner is beaten. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Beating - Canes
Acts in which one partner is beaten with a cane. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Beating - Crops
Acts in which one partner is beaten with a crop. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Beating - Floggers
Acts in which one partner is beaten with a flogger. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Beating - Hairbrushes
Acts in which one partner is beaten with a hairbrush. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Beating - Hard
Acts in which one partner is beaten hard. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Beating - Paddles
Acts in which one partner is beaten with a paddle. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Beating - Soft
Acts in which one partner is beaten softly. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Beating - Spanking
Acts in which one partner is beaten with a hand. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Beating - Straps
Acts in which one partner is beaten with a strap. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Beating - Whips
Acts in which one partner is beaten with a whip. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Beating Location - Back
Beating based acts that focus on the back as a target. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Beating Location - Bottom
Beating based acts that focus on the bottom as a target. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Beating Location - Chest
Beating based acts that focus on the chest or breasts as a target. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Beating Location - Feet
Beating based acts that focus on the feet (usually the soles) as a target. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Beating Location - Genitals
Beating based acts that focus on the genitals as a target. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Beating Location - Legs
Beating based acts that focus on the legs as a target. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Bestiality
Sex with animals. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Biting
Acts involving biting one partner with the teeth of the other. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
| Activity | To Self (Receiving) |
To Others (Giving) |
||
| Done | Rate | Done | Rate | |
|
Blindfolds
Acts in which blindfolds are placed over one partner's eyes to remove that sense (and often heighten others). |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Body Modification - Branding
Burning the body, often with a specific design, to leave a permanent mark or scar. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Body Modification - Piercing, Permanent
Putting an object through a part of the body for permanent adornment. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Body Modification - Piercing, Play
Exploring the concept of body piercing but in a manner that is temporary. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Body Modification - Saline Injection
Injecting saline in to a part of the body to temporarily engorge it. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Body Modification - Scarification
Deliberately causing scars, often through cutting the skin, for adornment. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Body Modification - Tattooing
Adorning the body by permanently applying ink under the skin. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Bondage (General)
Binding or restricting some or all of the body. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Bondage - Breast
Binding or restricting the breasts. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Bondage - Cuffs
Binding or restricting the body (usually the wrists) with [hand]cuffs. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Bondage - Genital
Binding or restricting the genitals. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Bondage - Heavy
Heavily binding or restricting the body, usually to the point where no, or next-to no, movement is possible. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Bondage - Intricate
Intricately binding or restricting some or all of the body. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Bondage - Light
Lightly binding or restricting the body. Usually more symbolic than actually restrictive. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Bondage - Locks
Bondage that involves locks and keys. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Bondage - Prolonged
Binding or restricting some or all of the body for prolonged periods of time. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Bondage - Sleeves, Arm
Restricting the movement of the arms by placing them in a confining sleeve. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Bondage - Sleeves, Leg
Restricting the movement of the legs by placing them in a confining sleeve. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Bondage - Spreader Bars
Restricting the movement of the legs by connecting them to either end of a bar, usually forcing them open. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Bondage - Stocks
Restricing movement by placing the wrists and neck (though may involve ankles) through a set of stocks. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
| Activity | To Self (Receiving) |
To Others (Giving) |
||
| Done | Rate | Done | Rate | |
|
Bondage - Straight Jackets
Binding or restricting the torso and arms by placing them inside a straight jacket. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Bondage - Suspension
Binding or restricting someone so they are suspended above the ground. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Bondage - Suspension, Inverted
Binding or restricting someone so they are suspended above the ground, upside-down. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Bondage - Whole Body
Binding or restricting the whole body. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Bondage Material - Chain
Binding or restricting the body, or parts of, with chain. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Bondage Material - Leather
Binding or restricting the body, or parts of, with leather. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Bondage Material - Rope
Binding or restricting the body, or parts of, with rope. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Bondage Material - Saran Wrap
Binding or restricting the body, or parts of, with saran wrap (clingfilm). |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Bondage Material - Scarves
Binding or restricting the body, or parts of, with [usually silk] scarves. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Bondage Material - Tape
Binding or restricting the body, or parts of, with [usually adhesive] tape. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Breath Play
Also called Asphyxiation. Acts involving restricting or cutting off the supply of oxygen. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Catheters
Inserting a tube in to the urethra to collect urine. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Clothespins
Using clothespins to pinch parts of the body. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Clothing - Chosen For
Having your clothing choices made for you, usually without the ability to appeal. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Clothing - Corsets
Wearing corsets which control the shape of the waist and hips. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Clothing - Full Head Hoods
Wearing hoods that cover the entire head, leaving only small holes for vision, breathing, etc. (if even them). |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Clothing - Harnesses
Wearing clothing that harnesses the body without necessarily covering it. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Clothing - High Heels
Wearing high-heeled shoes. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Clothing - Lingerie
Wearing women's lingerie. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Clothing - Masks
Wearing masks that cover the face. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
| Activity | To Self (Receiving) |
To Others (Giving) |
||
| Done | Rate | Done | Rate | |
|
Clothing - Uniforms (General)
Wearing uniforms that have a given significance. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Clothing - Uniforms, Military
Wearing military uniforms. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Clothing - Uniforms, School
Wearing schoolgirl/schoolboy uniforms. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Clothing Material - Leather
Clothing made out of, or involving, leather. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Clothing Material - PVC
Clothing made out of, or involving, PVC (the shiny plasticy material). |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Clothing Material - Rubber
Clothing made out of, or involving, rubber or latex. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Clothing Material - Sheer
Clothing made out of, or involving, sheer (transparent or translucent) material. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Collars - Private
Wearing a "slave" collar in private. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Collars - Public
Wearing a "slave" collar in public. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Crawling
The act of crawling on all fours to denote submission. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Cutting
Deliberately cutting the skin. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Dilation - Anal
Deliberately stretching the anus open. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Dilation - Vaginal
Deliberately stretching the vagina open. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Discipline
Submitting to, or receiving, the [often corporal] discipline of another. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Drinking - Blood
Drinking blood. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Drinking - Semen
Drinking semen. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Drinking - Urine
Drinking urine. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Electricity
Using electricity for sensation or pain. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Enemas
Applying liquid (traditionally warm water) in to the lower intestine, via a tube. Often to induce uncontrolled, or hard to control, excretion. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Examination - Physical
Having your body physically examined and, often, appraised. Sometimes this includes medical examination roleplays though, here, that is listed as Roleplay - Medical. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
| Activity | To Self (Receiving) |
To Others (Giving) |
||
| Done | Rate | Done | Rate | |
|
Exhibitionism - Forced
Exposing your body to others, nominally against your will, at the will of another. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Exhibitionism - Voluntary
Willingly exposing your body to others. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Face Slapping
Slapping the face, usually with an open hand, to cause pain or denote position. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Fisting - Anal
Placing an entire hand (the term "fist" is often an exageration) inside the anus. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Fisting - Vaginal
Placing an entire hand (the term "fist" is often an exageration) inside the vagina. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Food - Chosen For
Having your food choices made for you, usually without the ability to appeal. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Food - From Body
Eating food from another person's body. Either eating it directly from them or using them as a platter. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Food - From Bowl
Eating food directly from a bowl, like an animal such as a cat or dog. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Food - From Hand
Eating food directly from another person's hand. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Gags (General)
Devices used to limit, or prevent, verbal communication. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Gags - Ball
A type of gag that uses a ball to effectively block any verbal communication. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Gags - Bit
A type of gag that uses a bar that goes across the mouth, much like a horse's "bit". |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Gags - Ring
A type of gag that uses a ring to force the mouth open while providing access to the, now undefendable, mouth. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Gags - Tape
Using adhesive tape across the mouth to create a gag. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Given Away (General)
Being given, at a partner's whim, to another person, usually temporarily. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Given Away - Auctions
Being given, at a partner's whim, to another person as the result of a [slave] auction. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Given Away - Permanent
Being given away, at a partner's whim, to another person, permanently. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Hand Jobs
Pleasuring someone else's genitals with your hand. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Heterosexuality - Forced
Sexual acts with members of the opposite sex, nominally against your will. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Heterosexuality - Voluntary
Sexual acts with members of the opposite sex, willingly. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
| Activity | To Self (Receiving) |
To Others (Giving) |
||
| Done | Rate | Done | Rate | |
|
Homosexuality - Forced
Sexual acts with members of the same sex, nominally against your will. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Homosexuality - Voluntary
Sexual acts with members of the same sex, willingly. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Humiliation - Private
Acts in which you are humiliated, degrated, or shamed, in a private setting. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Humiliation - Public
Acts in which you are humiliated, degrated, or shamed, in front of others. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Humiliation - Verbal
Acts in which you are humiliated, degrated, or shamed, through either the words of someone else (such as name calling) or your own words. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Including Others
Acts in which other people, from outside your immediate relationship, are included. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Kneeling
The act of kneeling to denote submission. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Leashes
Wearing a leash, attached to a collar (or other convenient point). |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Lecturing
An exposition of a given subject for the purpose of instruction or reprimand. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Licking
Using your tongue on another person's body [or, often, anything they require]. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Massage
Rubbing another person's body for their relaxation. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Masturbation - Forced
Pleasuring your own genitals, with your hand, nominally against your will. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Masturbation - Voluntary
Pleasuring your own genitals, with your hand, willingly. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Nipple Clamps
Placing clamps on the nipples to cause pain. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Nipple Play
Acts that focus on the nipples. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Nipple Weights
Applying weights to the nipples, or usually to clamps on the nipples, to stretch them, generally to cause pain. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Nudity - Forced
Periods of time spent without clothing, nominally against you will. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Nudity - Voluntary
Periods of time spent without clothing. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Orgasm - On Command
Having to orgasm on the command of another person. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Orgasm Control
Giving control of when and how orgasms are experienced - and when they are not - to another person. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
| Activity | To Self (Receiving) |
To Others (Giving) |
||
| Done | Rate | Done | Rate | |
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Orgasm Denial
Losing the right to have orgasms for an [often protracted] period of time. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Pain (General)
Acts involving physical pain. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Pain - Heavy
Acts involving a very large degree of physical pain. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Pain - Light
Acts involving some physical pain, yet without too great an intensity - being more symbolic than serious. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Phone Sex
Having sexually explicit phone conversations, usually involving performing sexual acts at the same time. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Rape - Fantasy
Acts that explore being sexually used, nominally against your will, by another person. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Rape - Fantasy, Gang
Acts that explore being sexually used, nominally against your will, by more than one other person. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Recorded Scenes - Photographs, Private
Having photographs taken of you, either naked or indulging in a sexual act, for private viewing only. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Recorded Scenes - Photographs, Shared
Having photographs taken of you, either naked or indulging in a sexual act, to be shared with others. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Recorded Scenes - Video, Private
Having video taken of you, either naked or indulging in a sexual act, for private viewing only. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Recorded Scenes - Video, Shared
Having video taken of you, either naked or indulging in a sexual act, to be shared with others. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Roleplay (General)
Scenes in which the participants take on and act out roles. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Roleplay - Age
Scenes in which the participants take on and act out roles based on being a different age (such as babies or naughty young girls). |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Roleplay - Education
Scenes in which the participants take on and act out roles based on a scholastic teacher/student setting. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Roleplay - Interrogation
Scenes in which the participants take on and act out roles based on interrogations where one person is the interrogator and the other the subject. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Roleplay - Kidnapping
Scenes in which the participants take on and act out roles based on one partner being kidnapped. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Roleplay - Medical
Scenes in which the participants take on and act out roles based on the medical world such as Doctor/Patient. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Roleplay - Pig
Scenes in which the subject takes on and acts out a role based on being a pig. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Roleplay - Pony
Scenes in which the subject takes on and acts out a role based on being a pony. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Roleplay - Prison
Scenes in which the participants take on and act out roles based on the prison world such as Sadistic Jailer/Vulnerable Inmate |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
| Activity | To Self (Receiving) |
To Others (Giving) |
||
| Done | Rate | Done | Rate | |
|
Roleplay - Puppy
Scenes in which the subject takes on and acts out a role based on being a puppy or adult dog. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Roleplay - Religious
Scenes in which the participants take on and act out roles based on the religious world such as confessionals or Bishop/Nun. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Roleplay - Whore
Scenes in which the subject takes on and acts out a role based on being a male or female prostitute, selling themselves to another person for sex. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Sensation Play (General)
Acts involving the senses and strong sensations. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Sensation Play - Deprivation
Acts involving depriving the subject of their senses (often to heighten the remaining ones). |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Sensation Play - Fire
Acts involving the sensations and apprehensions caused by fire and heat. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Sensation Play - Hair Pulling
Acts involving the sensations and apprehensions caused by having hair pulled. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Sensation Play - Hot Wax
Acts involving the sensations and apprehensions caused by having hot candle wax dripped on to or applied to the body. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Sensation Play - Ice
Acts involving the sensations and apprehensions caused by using ice or other cold items on the body. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Sensation Play - Needle
Acts involving the sensations and apprehensions caused by using needles on the body, either scratching with them, or poking them. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Sensation Play - Scratching
Acts involving the sensations and apprehensions caused by being scratched. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Sensation Play - Suction
Acts involving the sensations and apprehensions caused by having suction applied to the body. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Sensation Play - Teasing
Acts involving the sensations and apprehensions caused by teasing the body. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Sensation Play - Tickling
Acts involving the sensations and apprehensions caused by tickling the body. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Serving (General)
Serving another person in specific ways, putting their pleasure ahead of your own. For example, a maid or a sexual servant. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Serving - Art
Serving another person, putting their pleasure ahead of your own, as a [usually immobile] piece of artwork such as a statue. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 2 3 4 5 Soft Limit Hard Limit |
|
Serving - Ashtray
Serving another person, putting their pleasure ahead of your own, using a part of your body as a receptical for their cigarette or cigar ash. |
Yes No |
Essential Curious 1 &n | ||